Reconstruction

I understood, realized and repented my mistakes - mistakes that stemmed from my own insecurities, fears and lack of control on my frustration. If I blame circumstances, situations or people - that would be naive and meaningless. Because, ultimately those "reactions" or "behavior" was mine. It is my choice o my ability or my ignorance or mine to have acted in such a way. I realized no matter how others treat you, I should never treat them bad. No matter how others hurt your ego (could be unintentional or immaturity), I should never attack them back. 

I am working on never losing patience in relationships - especially the ones that matter a lot - family, friends and love. I should never ever take anybody or anything for granted - that emotional laziness might translate into impatience and you might react immaturely. I have seen it happen in my relationships. Even the best of you - the very noble and good part of you - falls badly to the gutters within seconds if one loses patience and composure.

People and society are least bothered about the trigger but consider you as the uncivilized or the indisciplined. In fact it is right I guess. When in love or true friendship, just give yourself endlessly without ever doubting the person even if hurts. I have a learnt a greatest lesson of my life - never ever analyze, never ever expect change or never ever tell the other person what to do. If they really care or love you, they would understand you and what is better for the relationship. Because of the nature of our jobs - I see we have become analytical, logical and result-oriented. This is overbearing itself on my relationships. But relationships, egos and hearts are very fragile, sensitive and irrational. Never question the friendship, trust and love what you are receiving - for it is the ultimate insult and pain to the person bestowing it upon you. They are the greatest and priceless things in one's life. By questioning or by doubting or by hurrying - whatever may be the circumstances or situations - one kills the beauty and magic of love and friendship. 

I have developed a trick to change myself. I always ask "SO WHAT" whenever I feel hurt or insecure. What is the worst thing that can happen now. For example, you discover your beloved lying to you. It is quite natural when to get angry and feel insecure. But instead of losing composure and peace of mind, ask her why did she lie. What was the necessity to lie? Tell her lying ruins the trust and it takes hell lot of work for her to rebuild it. That work will be so much that she might find it suffocating to bear. Another example, if your friend    takes your new sweater and loses it. Its human to lose temper, instead control your thoughts and ask "SO WHAT". In fact I did that. I didn't show any anger or frustration on my friend. I exhibited lot of patience and self-control. But there were some moments where I lost. Unfortunately, the people I was with remember only the mistakes I have done and forgot the good things and have hurt me dangerously to the point of insanity. No matter what, no matter how other treat you, I should always behave in the best possible way, in the ideal way. Now I have my life totally ruined and shattered, I am taking these lessons very very seriously to rebuild it. Hopefully I would be strong enough to reconstruct my life from ashes and rubble. God grant me power to think good, be good and act good whatever may be the provocations and situations outside. I want to be what I am all the times.

P.S: Even if someone belittles you, never disparage them back. It hurts their ego painfully and they cant forgive.

America, its you again!

With grand ignorance and lack of common sense, one can become sole super power - USa has been a sparkling example! And their success is so seductive it allures the rest of world to borrow its super-ignorance. Just like unalloyed belief on CREDIT RATINGS!

I can see how ridiculous some "standard" American guy poor of common sense tells "NO!! Her size is not AAA but AA" whole world starts crying!! Trust & reliability on the by-products of their ignorance, is matchless! Mr. Rater is so flawed and nonsense that countries like PIGS (Portugal, Italy, Shiva shiva Greece & lol Spain) who are BIMARUs of the world have better rating than India. If this is not whimsical sway of moody Fitch then what else! Please compare assets, real growth, or SAVINGS etc...India fares better. Baseless. Anyways let the credit ratings go.

Focus on the issue: US economy is a grasshopper, they never save. They spend 37% of GDP with only half of them paying taxes!! And now they have borrowed everything they can to the point of default, hence cannot borrow more. To make matters worse, they want to attract borrowers now either by increasing yield on their bonds or lessening the price or both! But how shall they redeem bond holders?? And how can they promise higher yield when their growth is almost halted?

Dear America, at least for economic reasons, you should have stopped investing in Iraq, afghan & other wars. You don’t have to borrow and invest in war. Unemployment in your country is not a result of outsourcing rather it’s a result of your govt's policy making and lack of progressive foresight. The catastrophe, which you have created, is indeed a triumph of your unregulated capitalism, unbridled globalization and canonized ignorance. Or on a second thought, you can consider it to be a last leg of official transition of power from West to East (rather from single point of concentration to globally distributed power poles!) in the background of strange economic cycles.

So what you can do to avoid catastrophe?

· First, present the inherent nonsense of these rating agencies & communicate to the world not to take seriously. Shut the agencies ass!

· For god's sake, make love not war! You can use all that budget and healthy workforce productively in spurring growth

· Keep a check on your love for capitalism. Because capitalism is not an adult, it is like a teen, there should be timely n friendly guidance.

· Tell academicians to teach CAPM is just a vague measurement and not to take American bond as Risk-Free while calculating :) This is a spoilsport. If ever possible, slowly integrate fractal geometry.

· And sell gold now.

Relationships at Work

My dad always tells the quality of one's life is strongly correlated to the quality of one's relationships. Relationship with oneself, with people and with everything in the world, if not universe. I could not stop recalling my dad while signing up for a training program "Building and strengthening Relationships at Business" at office. I was sweetly impressed by no-nonsense and non-cliche approach of the course. Session not only helped in refreshing our "known" concepts but also the importance of repetition. It reminded me if "known" things are not consciously functionalized they become dysfunctional not just non-functional! It was timeless lesson. And I thought why not share some important nuggets from the program with you:

- Respect and concern for the person builds strong relationship

- Seek out and spend time with them. Take an interest in them.

- Active listening

- Offer something for nothing

- Spend lunch hours with peers

- Serve on special projects and volunteer company-wide activities/committees

- Be truthful and open even if others are not

- Provide correct, clear and complete information when people reach out for you

- Avoid negative non-verbal behavior. Avoid complains

- Use please and thank you non-mechanically

- Evaluate criticism objectively

- Give more than you get

- Meet your inner circle + external circle at least once a month (6+6)

- Exude energy and enthusiasm for attitudes are reciprocal

Remember, its great to be liked but even greater to be NEEDED